I used to tell my family, “No matter what you do in a day, there are only 24 hours in it and it will be over at the end.” I would also say, “Everyone is busy; either busy sitting around or busy doing stuff. We might as well do something.” That was my rationale for being too busy.
Today, we were swamped. First we had to lay in bed. That took until 9:00. Some of that time we had to multitask; cuddle with kids AND lay in bed. Then we had to loaf until about 11:00; again multitasking along the way. At 11:00 we went out to eat. It continued with this kind of busyness until now. Wow, I’m beat. A day with this kind of busyness refreshes my mind, body and soul.
Of the many lessons I have learned in this season of life, a big one is that life is too short to be too busy; to not to have margin. Margin is the leftover time or energy that you have after the stuff you must do is done. Since life is unpredictable, margin is essential. If you want time or energy to have a spontaneous conversation with your wife or children, you cannot spend all your time and/or energy doing something else. If I want to help a friend in need (like you have done for us), I cannot fill up our schedule with “stuff”, no matter how good that stuff is.
This week is busy with clinic appointments for Tara. Tomorrow is the thyroid and upper chest lymph node biopsies. Wednesday we meet with the Oncologist to discuss results of the biopsy and with the Gynecological Surgeon to look at the abdomen to get official clearance to lift, walk, run, etc. Also on Wednesday we have a genetic consultation to discuss how this cancer came to be and what that means for our children. Thursday we have a CT scan of her body and blood work. Friday is chemotherapy.
Thanks for having margin in your lives to be able to help us. I hope it is not using up time you need for your family. Pray with them tonight. Tell them you love them several times. When your child asks to tuck them in, even if you are tired, find that last bit of margin to go for it. At the end of the night, it will be over either way, and you will have either done it, or not.