We had plans for redoing our kitchen. We had plans to camp more this year, including family camp in August. We planned some landscaping around the house; little projects that we could have done periodically throughout the summer. The kids were going to do sports. That was just through this summer. Then we had plans for fall football (actually that is just me) and Haiti again this winter. We had planned a 20 year anniversary trip over New Years.
Then there are the big items that we naturally plan in our heads, like growing old together, watching our children grow up, watching them find a career and possibly a mate. I still dream of saying “Her mother and I do.” to the question “Who gives this woman to be married?”
These are our plans, and we are fine with planning knowing we are not guaranteed that stuff. Much of this stuff we will still be able to accomplish. But this summer we are engaging in a planning process that may rock our world and I am excited about it. We will be planning for our roles in our kids’ big events. Events like high school and college graduation, finding a soul mate, their first child, etc. We are making videos from both of us individually, as if we will not be there. It will force us to identify our feelings and communicate them to our children in a way that will be meaningful to them if we are not around.
Think about the conversations that Tara and I will have making those videos. There will be buckets of tears and tons of intimate moments just appreciating everything we have together. I would recommend that for every couple actually. What a great exercise in determining what you would most want to say; what legacy you will leave behind. My guess is that it will change the way we live.
God directs our path, regardless of the plans we make. I am good with that. I just wish he would tell me where my path was taking me so I could plan it out a bit better for him.