Time Moves On

Lewis turns ten today. Wow!  Our baby is double digits. Time moves on, regardless of if we are ready for it to happen or not.  He and I spent the last three days in the Boundary Waters trying out his new pole. He caught the first fish with it and fed us our first shore lunch.  Don’t tell him, but the time away was purely selfish for me. I got to spend some great time with the finest young man I know.  He sharpens me.  We have so much fun together. 

Micalyn and I also spent a few days away last week looking at colleges. As a junior, the decision is getting closer. She is so ready to spread her wings and I am so confident she’ll do great when the day comes.  Time moves on. 

I feel a bit guilty that I had so much fun for the past week.  Fortunately (or unfortunately) Tara has not had to deal with all the side effects of chemo while I was away. She was not able to get her chemo again last week due to low white blood cell counts. Today she gets her blood work done again to find out if she is able to get treated this week. If she can, it will be Wednesday.  It has been three weeks since the last treatment. 

We are a bit discouraged.  We feel that Tara’s body needs chemo to fight the cancer, but it is unable to take the necessary abuse.  As a result, the treatment regimen is changing.  She will get a big dose every four weeks and the smaller dose in between the big ones. 

There has been good in all of it. In the two treatments Tara has had, the cancer numbers are going down already.  So the chemo seems to be working.

This is the sixth week since diagnosis of the recurrence. Time moves on. We are humbled by the continued faithfulness and kindness of our friends. Christian or not, you model the nature and compassion of God to us.  Your prayers and concern, the meals, the encouragement, and the service blesses us. We love you.  Thank you.


I Can’t See You

As a baby, Lewis would hide by covering his face.  I probably did the same when I was a baby. How simple. If I can’t see you then you aren’t there.  For the baby, what a convenient way to get out of a situation. I wish I hadn’t grown out of that. The adult equivalent of this would be the age-old fantasy of being able to disappear on command.

Sometimes Tara and I seem to try this trick with problems. Maybe if we aren’t talking about it…. Maybe if we work a lot….  Maybe if we have friends over…  Maybe if we serve together….  Maybe… if we do these things, the problems, the cancer, or anything else “bad” won’t exist.  I guess I’m talking more about myself on this one.  Tara does much better at facing the problems.  

But God has more for me than this.  How can I embrace the challenges instead of burying my head in the sand?  I don’t want to run from the fight. I want the story.  The experience.  The sharpening.  The growth. I want to learn dependence and really enjoy it. 

Tara has the big dose on Monday along with an exam. We may learn a bit about how everything is going. But we may not learn much, depending on what the doc can decipher without a scan. We are optimistic and sort of keeping our hands over our face pretending we don’t see the monster.


We stirred at 5:45 to the sound of Tara’s alarm.  The reality is that we were both awake already, but we didn’t know it until that moment.  Some small talk and cuddles in the few minutes before the day started. A good friend picked Tara up to go to chemo while I stayed behind to help the kids get ready for school, aka be the coffee and breakfast butler. 

Tara returned home around 8:30. Her blood counts were too low to do chemo. That’s good and bad. Good in that she didn’t get chemo and bad in that she didn’t get chemo.  Low counts means that she has to be careful not to get sick. She has to take extra precautions. She said she must start getting to bed early, but that didn’t happen tonight. 

Tara has a different attitude this time around. By starting the treatments fresh (not after a surgery), she has more energy. She can do things that she couldn’t last time.  But today reminded us that she is in the middle of a fight.  We are in the middle of a fight. We were humbled today.

I told Tara, “You don’t deserve this.”  She said, “You’re right, I deserve worse. I deserve death. I am a sinner and God is perfect.  I am thankful I have this instead. God is so good to me”.  I wish we knew where this road is taking us. One thing I do know, the road is prepared for us and will be lit in time for our next step. It won’t be lit well by a flickering 3-watt nightlight. But that’s all we’ve got on our own. The source of light is our hope.  Jesus.  

Note to Self

I have never been good at journaling.  These blogs are as close as it gets.  I hear that people learn a lot from going back and reading their journal entries.  So I gave it a shot.  I was humbled to read this from this past New Year’s eve, right before we left for Ecuador.

“There is a new sense of anticipation as we begin 2017.  But nothing is fleshed out yet, only a substantially unfinished skeleton missing critical pieces.  We have some work to do; listening, praying, and planning. We are cautiously excited. 
We felt a similar swelling of purpose and excitement as we sought him 4 years ago. But we didn’t find what we expected then. In many ways it was better because it stretched and shaped us in ways we needed, but certainly wouldn’t have chosen.”

This swelling of purpose was so evident late in 2012 when we went to Haiti as a family.  It was Thanksgiving, and cancer was diagnosed January 30.  The swelling of purpose happened again in at the end of 2016.  We were restless, sensing God moving again in our lives.

How humbling to realize that God cares for us in this way; to give us a VERY clear sense that we need to seek Him in advance of a trial.  To shore up our foundation.  To build reserves for coming strain.  Some would say we were caught off guard in both cases.  But I am beginning to recognize the voice of God in a way I haven’t before.  His voice is a calmness in chaos, a stillness in a storm.  It drew us to go seek Him twice now right before a storm in our lives.  How gracious.

Also how gracious He is to grow us.  I don’t feel that gratitude in the daily moments.  But when reflecting on this, in many ways it will be better because it will stretch and shape us in ways we need, but certainly would not choose.

Note to self: Listen for the voice of God.  Don’t run away from the storm.  Goodness is there.  Love is there.  Help is there.

Arbor Day

I’m a tree lover.  I am compelled to bring to your attention that tomorrow is Arbor Day.  God did a great job with trees. He provides some wonderful benefits through them.  We’d be in a world of hurt without them. A great friend points out that trees host the most abundant/important machines in the world; tiny little protein enzymes that helps extract carbon dioxide from the air, splitting oxygen back out for us to breathe and carbon to grow trees bigger (Thank you Louis J.M.). But the benefit I am most thankful for right now is that the bark of a species in the Pacific Northwest is used to make one of the drugs that is treating Tara’s cancer.  I mentioned this four years ago too and it never gets old to me. 

Monday and Tuesday started out great and led us to believe the chemo might not hit hard. Wrong!  Tara has been hurting yesterday and today, although you wouldn’t know it by looking at her. We are hoping the weekend is better.  Monday she gets another dose, this time with only half the concoction.  Spirits are high most of the time around the Maier home.  Tara is trying to stay active and doing a pretty good job. And life just keeps going on. The help we have gotten has been critical. Thank you friends.  Tara sleeps as I write. Peaceful. Content. Joyful. God is faithful. 

It Begins (and it is good)

Chemo has officially started. Lewis and I have accompanied Tara and are doing our best to distract and encourage her.  She is a champ. Look at that smile. She is a content woman. 

Ever wonder what hope actually looks like? Hope is visible when in the middle of chemo you are studying a book on how to be a godly and faithful parent.  

We have joy in our suffering, because we know that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope – Romans 5:3-4. 

Tara all hooked up – and smiling

Tara and Lewis in Gonda lobby


Going through this a second time now we recognize some commonalities with the first time. One is how much we end up comforting people when we talk to them about our situation. We recognize that for our family and friends this is hard for them too.  Tara is amazing how she ministers in this way. Her calm assuring demeanor and confidence in God’s sovereignty is comforting to those who struggle with our situation (Including me).

The commonality that surprises us the most is how much people want to help… still. I guess I figured the second time around more people would think differently for some reason. It is incredibly humbling to accept the help.

The reality is that we need help. My pride says “I can do it on my own”. But we can’t. We were made to be dependent on each other (“the body” described in 1 Corinthians 12:12-27) and on God (the whole Bible).

A dear friend told me today that I need to mention that this site has been updated (thanks to her efforts) with an area where those who want to help can. I am humbled to mention it. If you want, you can sign up to bring meals or help in other ways.
Tara’s chemotherapy starts Monday morning. Please pray for strength for her body to handle it well and for it to work.

Thanks for journeying with us.

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Help with Dog Walking: https://7maiers.com/how-you-can-help/dog-walkers/

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Update on Tara

Tara had her appointment yesterday with the Oncologist to learn the extent of her cancer. We sat together listening closely trying to keep emotion from clouding our understanding. Of course we had hoped to find that the cancer was miraculously gone, but that didn’t happen. We were told that the cancer was visible in a number (12 or more) lymph nodes in her chest area and 2 areas on the outer lining of one of her lungs.  There was no recurrence in the abdomen.  In 25 years, our oncologist has not seen a recurrence like this, only in the chest (not implying anything good or bad).

Chemotherapy seems to be the best course of action.  Since it is the same cancer type, they are hopeful that the same chemo regimen will be effective.  The good news is that Tara will not undergo another surgery.  The bad news is that she knows what these chemo drugs do to her, and she dreads it.  Chemo starts Monday.


Round 2

Last week the doctors confirmed some very bad news for us. Tara’s cancer is back.  We will know more tomorrow morning after the results of today’s PET Scan. We are broken and trying to find hope. We will need it given to us by God. We trust he has a plan for this but are weary with the news. Tara is a fighter so she will certainly lace up her gloves for round 2. Please pray with us for healing and hope. 

ROMANS 5:2-4  And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.

PSALM 20  May the Lord answer you when you are in distress; may the name of the God of Jacob protect you. May he send you help from the sanctuary and grant you support from Zion. May he remember all your sacrifices and accept your burnt offerings. May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed. May we shout for joy over your victory and lift up our banners in the name of our God. May the Lord grant all your requests. Now this I know: The Lord gives victory to his anointed. He answers him from his heavenly sanctuary with the victorious power of his right hand. Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. They are brought to their knees and fall, but we rise up and stand firm. Lord, give victory to the king! Answer us when we call!

God is Good?

So how can I know God is good?  How can we know He loves us?  How can we  know every good and perfect gift is from Him?  Great questions.  I am wrestling with this right now. 

This morning I woke my daughter at 6:20 for swimming practice. “Dad, I don’t feel good. Can I stay home?” Of course she said this. It is early Saturday morning.  Who feels good when this happens?  But the discipline of practice develops character and helps her improve. She needs both. So I made her go. She left mad at me.

So track with me here. As I said, I’m wrestling with this right now, trying to decide if I really believe it. My mouth says it, but do I REALLY buy it? “We glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope” (Rom 5:3-4). So is this saying that suffering is the way to hope?  I think so. Suffering forced us before to dependence on Him. When broken and dependent on Him, hope soon followed. We had more fulfillment in our lives then than other times. It’s like we were made to suffer. We must cling to His promises and understand His goodness.

We forget so quickly. Three years ago, on Easter, Tara and I said this about the subject. VIDEO